No-one wants to date an emotional wreck. And yet dating seems to turn us inside out and up and down. How can you learn to control your emotions? Scroll down to learn more about EQ and some strategies. It is the scale of your intelligence, not your IQ, rather your EQ, which relates to your emotions. Different to your IQ which remains mostly stable throughout your life, EQ can be developed. It is said – healing is in the expression of the feeling!!!!

When you have a high EQ you are mostly in control of your emotions: You choose to feel what you want to feel, when you want to feel it, for as long as you want to feel it, to the extent you want to feel it. In fact major research tells us that the main difference between middle and lower level management and those who are very successful, either senior executives in large companies or multi-millionaires is that they have developed their EQ!!! And so it is.

If you repress your feelings they will bubble up inside you and explode out (as with a volcano) when you least want them to. Additionally if you repress emotions long enough worse results can follow eg in Western society such as those in Australia and the US, women are not encouraged to feel anger, however sadness is okay. Repressed anger can manifest in sadness and repressed sadness leads to feelings of overwhelming sadness and can lead to depression.

Often the man will have no idea why he is angry. Have you heard such comments as: "Don't be a scaredy cat." Or "What are you, a man or a mouse?" So how can we learn to control our emotions? Even movie star, Goldie Hawn, tells us to 'be happy', however Goldie also realized long ago that happiness also relies on us feeling the other emotions, in order to be able to be happy. Anger – why not swim laps, do aerobics, punch a boxing bag or yell into a pillow.